Coming to an end

It's been awhile since I've written. The holidays. Life. It all got busy and hectic. I've also been reflecting on the past year. Many things have evolved and changed over the year. A large part of my life the last year is coming to a close. Pumping. It should sound like angels singing, but actually the idea and act of weaning from the pump is rather emotional. I did not anticipate this.

I have dedicated a majority of my time since Avielle has been born, developing a nursing  and pumping relationship. When I went back to work last April, I learned how to manage my time and include pumping sessions. I learned how much milk my baby needed while I was away. I learned what bottles or nipples worked best. I learned that hand washing is much better than the dishwasher for all those tiny parts. I learned that a hand pump is great for long car trips. I learned how to travel in an airport with breast milk. I learned a lot. When I went back to work, I made the decision to continue to offer breast milk to Avi, and that meant pumping at work. Since April, I have been pumping every two hours while at work.

EVERY TWO HOURS. 

I would miss meetings. I would take my lunch break while pumping. I would pump in the car to and from work. I even pumped during breaks at job interviews. When I started a new job I had to fight for my right to pump in a locked office. I ate oatmeal, drank mother's milk tea, carried a water bottle around for hydration, did anything I could to maintain my supply to keep up with a growing child. 


I always had a freezer stash from my small random pumping sessions shortly after Avi was born. I was lucky to never need to use that frozen stash. Until now.

Avi is 19 days away from being one. I will make it to my goal of breastfeeding/pumping for  at least a year, however I am still saddened by the fact that I have noticed a drop in my supply. I pump about a third of what I used to. I don't even pump my left breast anymore, that gave up on me months ago. Oatmeal and tea don't change a thing. The past week I have relied on some of my frozen stash. I suppose that is why we create a frozen stash, but there is a feeling of inadequacy looming above me yet. 

There's a feeling of sadness, of doubt and secretly, of failure. I can't explain it. To most, it would sound ridiculous. I've made it a year! I worked so hard to balance and perfect this relationship, to keep it going, to keep it a float. I should be proud. Yet, there's a piece of me that wishes I got to make the decision of when I was done. I feel that my body is making the decision for me. I feel in a way, by body is not keeping up. Failing me. 

This end also means how grown up my baby is. Soon, she will wean herself from the breast as well, possibly before I'm ready. Right now I am still her world. Her comfort, her nourishment, her everything. Soon, she will choose other ways to comfort. She will be able to soothe without her mama. And that's okay. Yet, it still stings a little. 
I helped with those rolls
One year. In the beginning I wasn't sure I would make it. Seems like a lifetime. Now, it feels like it went too quickly. Like I didn't get to soak it up enough. Relish in the moments. My mind isn't ready to be done, but my body is. 

Even as I type these words, they choke me. I look at Avielle sleeping soundly and know that I have done my very best to provide for her this last year. I know deep down it was quite an accomplishment. Tomorrow I will leave for work and she will not nurse. She will be too busy playing to notice me slip away. She will be too busy to notice she didn't nurse before mama left, and that's okay. It will be okay.

Soon, I will be able to look back at the year with awe. I will get to that point. I am just not there yet.

19 more days to reach my goal.




NoseFrida makes having sick babies suck... Literally

So if you don't know NoseFrida you haven't gotten on the trendy mom train apparently. Choo choo! All aboard the booger bus!

NoseFrida has replaced those blue nose bulb-suctions used for snot removal from your kid. The thing is, NoseFrida removes those goopy booger friends from their tiny nose holes by suction, suction you get by using your mouth.

I'll let that sink in for a second.

Yeah you suck out those globs of boogers. WITH YOUR MOUTH. Reading that makes your mouth water a little and not in a good way.

A friend told me about this contraption, and although I'm a nurse, I do not do phlegm. It's the thing that makes my gag reflex dance. Like dry heave, eyes water, while over a patients bed, type of dance. So when she told me about this I was skeptical and grossed out. 

Walking into BuyBuyBaby where towers of everything you need in your life loom over you, there was NoseFrida calling my name. Since I have no shopping self control and want to be on the trendy mom train, I scooped up a shiny new NoseFrida.

I have to admit this was months and months ago. Avi got a few runny noses since then but I was overwhelmed at the idea of mouth pipetting her boogers out, so I used the old school bulb-suction instead. That all changed tonight.

Sad Sally's snot nose was too much for that bulb suction and was interfering with the sleep Gods, so in a panic I decided to try out this mouth suctioning equipment. I grabbed my husband to be on barf duty just in case I lost my shit from eating my child's boogers and barfed all over the nursery. Not sure what he would do but he was required to participate in this event. 

There's a plastic piece that goes in the nose hole and is connected to a skinny tube with small a mouth piece and you literally suck out your kids sickness. Okay so there is a filter so it can't get into your mouth. But still. Dry heave central.

The sucking of snot makes a fun gurgling sound. To my surprise I did not gag or dry heave. The opposite. I actually enjoyed this. Something very satisfying about sucking the snot out from your kids tiny mucous filled petri dish body leaving them to breath clear and easy. Kinda addicting. That's gross, I know, but don't knock it until you try it? Seriously it's amaze. I'm a NoseFrida convert. 

The company also makes other gadgets, including one to help get the farts out. I am not kidding.

So if you're skeptical, this booger dry heave queen suggests you give the NoseFrida a try. 

Get those boogies. 



*I was not paid for this review*


It's fall....errrr maybe winter? And that means a newpumping/nursingoutfit!



I just realized that since I'm rounding the corner to one year of nursing and about 7 months of pumping, that most of my time nursing or pumping has been through the summer months and all of my nursing tops or dresses are for those warmer months. In Chicago we have about 13 days of fall before we are forced into the coldest 9 months, and that means I need a new outfit for work and overall lounging.

Guys, I have found the best dress for my fall/winter needs!

The BOOB Simone nursing dress from one of my top maternity and nursing stores Figure8Maternity, can also be worn during pregnancy, so it's an overall win.  The things I love about this dress are that it allows for discreet nursing and also easy pumping. I have other tops or dresses with the side slits that allow for easy discreet nursing but not really good for pumping, too putzy. I was able to wear this dress to work paired with boots, but it's also super comfy to pair with leggings or tights for a lazy Sunday.
nursing in my Tula while being lost in a corn maze. Parenting win.

The price is a little on the higher end, but since you can wear it pretty much for the rest of your adult life, it's totes worth it. The size is pretty true and forgiving, not too tight or spandex-y, it's slightly long, hitting to almost my knee on my 5'8" frame, but would be super easy to hem for those shorties out there. It's nice to have something to mix up the wardrobe instead of the usual nursing top paired with a cardigan that I've been wearing the last 7 months since I've gone back to work... just saying.
who doesn't need a green ring and dinosaur feet to nurse?


Get the dress.
 

*I was not paid for my views or opinions of this dress*


Sleep monster

Sometimes I find myself getting caught up in the world of babies, especially the social media world. I belong to countless new mom groups on facebook, which is helpful to ask for advice or words of encouragement from other moms. Unfortunately it also allows for little voices to get into you head. There are so many questions every day regarding sleep. When you become a mother, no doubt your world changes. All of a sudden you have this little person to care for to the best of your ability. In the first few weeks to months, it's pure survival mode. Once you gain your footing, you begin to really develop a parenting style and form opinions on certain topics. The biggest source of anxiety for me is sleep.

THE TOPIC OF SLEEP IS THE DEVIL.

The way Avi and I sleep was not planned or thought out, it just sort of happened. We began co-sleeping (bed sharing to be exact) around 2.5 months. I planned to put her in a crib at 6 months, but then she had a sleep regression, so I thought, maybe later, and then we went on a vacation, so I thought, maybe after we returned. Now she's 9 months and I stop and think to myself, what are my goals and wishes with this little human and her sleep habits?

I've gotta be honest here. I am HAPPY with my sleep situation. It's become a comfort for me, and no doubt Avi. She reaches for me at night, our bodies close, I know her breathing pattern. I somehow only wake for real cries and continue to sleep through the rolls, position changes and coos of a little baby. When she's sick, I'm able to monitor her closely and it also brings me peace knowing my closeness makes her feel better.

Although I am happy with our sleep situation, I still feel the lurking voices of western society creeping into my thoughts. Is she sleeping through the night? Is she still nursing at night? Get her into her own crib, let her cry it out, teach her to self soothe....I start to panic and doubt my ability as a mom. Have I created a monster? I talk to sleep consultants, I read books, I scour the many questions regarding sleep posted on all my mom facebook groups. I start to think, yes, I am going to sleep train her and get her out of my bed.

But then I slow down and think about this. Why am I changing how things are? I start thinking about all the other cultures outside the western world, bedsharing often being the norm. I work with many Filipino women who also bedshare. When I asked some of them about cosleeping, they talk about it without question or shame, it's the norm, almost like there's no other option. They bedshare until their child is ready for their own bed, no longer wanting to be with mom and dad. That is their normal. That is what has worked for them for centuries, even as that culture has merged with our western one.

So, this white American girl may be going against the grain, but I am doing what feels right, and more importantly what is working. I have to be honest. Some nights are a battle. Avi won't go to sleep; we try rocking, I hold her, we let her cry for a bit, I nurse... it's all a guessing game. Sure, it may be easier if we do a training regimen teaching her to soothe herself and be quiet when put in bed, but I am also not sure I believe she should be forced to get there right now. Maybe she's not ready to self soothe. Maybe there's a reason she is crying and doesn't want to sleep alone in the crib. On those nights I tell myself, "this too shall pass," she won't cry forever, she will eventually sleep, and she will not go to college still sleeping in my bed.

Am I creating a monster? Absolutely not. I am loving and nurturing my child the only way I know how. I'm listening to my heart and my instincts. I know that life is short, and in the blink of an eye she will be a teenager thinking of things to do besides hang out with her un-cool mom, so for now I relish in the moments where I am her everything. I am her source of warmth, food, happiness and joy.

This will not last forever.


These are choices I have made. I choose to nurse my baby when she cries, sometimes to sleep. I choose to sleep next to her. I choose to snuggle and sometimes rock her to stop the tears. I make choices as a mom that I feel are the best for me. So stay out of my head societal opinions. We are gonna rock this.




babywearing is full of rainbows and unicorns


I am going to give you a glimpse into the world of babywearning. Babywearing many of you may not know is a hardcore cult, I'm not taking wearing your baby in a Moby or Ergo, I'm talking woven's and stalking and unicorns and rainbows. It's my new hobby. I can't get enough, it consumes my every moment. Is that the baby crying? Don't care, I gots to scroll the FSOT wall on the swappers page. That's "for sale or trade"... alright here we go.

Ain't nobody got time to do a bunch of research on the history of babywearing, but I'm sure it goes something like this: Rural village of poor country with lots of women working in fields and long walks with small children requiring women to wear them, usually in woven wraps. Modern women of those same countries now look down on the woven wraps because it's how poor women carry their children, and they want to be western and use fancy strollers. Now here in the western civilization we have crazy granola-wanna be women like myself who drop serious cash for a woven wrap and choose that over our modern Mercedes of a stroller. I like to pair my wraps with preppy J. Crew outfits. That's obnoxious.


Babywearing, specifically with woven wraps has become a crazy thing, and I only know the basics. Woven wraps are great because they can carry babies and toddlers, unlike the moby, or other stretchy wraps, which maxes out around 16 pounds because of the stretchy material. Woven wraps are either hand or machine woven. And if you can get your hands on a handwoven... holy unicorn batman. Many of the woven buying and trading happens on Facebook and Etsy, however Etsy listings are really only known through FB. Confusing I know. I spent the last few weeks scouring the pages of babywearing swap to find my next woven, hopefully a handwoven, and hopefully less than $400- seriously. I found one. A used Warped and Wonderful handwoven, oh my god it's mine, it's coming to my house, I can't wait to touch it. When wraps get delivered, people call it fluff mail. I told you we were all insane.
my Warped and Wonderful handwoven fluff mail!
 So it's so hard to get your hand on a handwoven because they are made by little fairies and in batches of like one per decade, and you can't just buy it from a store or rarely online, you purchase through a raffle or draw or fucking magic. For example, Warped and Wonderful has hadwoven's and on their FB page they will show you delicious pictures of the next best thing. Cushy, smooshy, blanket-worthy hand woven by angels-wraps that you hope to get your hands on, hope to be the next luckiest mom in the western world. Then you wait, your baby starves, you don't shower, you refresh your facebook in hopes of finding out when they will release that ONE wrap. You  look away for a moment and within seconds, it's bought by some [bleep]. Shit.

That's one way of hoping to get a wrap.

Sometimes they go up for a draw. You sign up and enter to win the RIGHTS to purchase. Yes, that's crazy. If you win by random stoke of stupid luck, then you can pay them $800+ for the handwoven of your dreams. You read that correctly, woven wraps can go for over $1000...Like people live in trailer homes and eat Ramen noodles so they can have this woven. Fine, whatever, but I still haven't been lucky enough to win the damn rights to buy anything. UppyMama handwovens are gorge, like colorful pieces of magic woven together. I always enter their draws in hopes of one day someone will congratulate me and give me 24 hours to divorce my husband so I can give them a bunch of money for their woven, because let's be real, I cannot spend that much money and still be married. (love you boo!) The handwoven I purchased was from another mama's "for sale" listing, hopefully there's no cigarette holes or barf stains on it- she said there wasn't.

Also what fabric blend are you interested in? Oh man, there are soooo many blends you can get! Obviously the most common is 100% cotton, but then there's wool blends, cashmere blends, mercerized cotton- who the hell knows what that is, hemp blends, bamboo, unicorn tail blends, so on so forth. I may or may not have a second wrap coming that's a wool blend, because- Chicago winter.

**If the husband is reading, I absolutely do not have a second wrap coming.

You can even buy wraps as "dye blanks" that are white or cream, a neutral color and send them off to professionals to dye it in your own custom way. holy jesusmausadkajsfa. What this is all telling me is that I should buy a weaving loom and start my own damn business- "Fatty Tuna Wovens" Boom.

Learning to wrap with these wovens is almost another blog post in itself, but I'm rolling it into this novel. I started off with the Moby wrap and there's like one way to wrap the baby, which is fine for newborns and beginners. With a woven there are almost an infinite number of carries you can do and the crazy cult people all abbreviate, FWCC, CCCB, TUB... I can't even think of more than that because I'm basically brain dead from all this nonsense. The best thing about woven's is the ability to wrap a baby on your back, you can't do this with a stretchy wrap for safety purposes. But there are multiple ways to wrap, and it depends on the length of the wrap too, if you have a long size or if you get down with a shorty. Ugh. I can't even.

I'm new to the wrapping world, especially the world of wearing Avi on my back. I sweat, cry, sometimes vomit, but sometimes we are successful and then spend the day taking selfies of our successful back carry. No joke. I'm a loser. Some people are awesome enough to actually do this in public. I would for sure drop Avi on the cement and someone would call CPS on me. That's Child protective services, not Chicago public schools... although maybe same thing?

Well I'm off onto a new adventure of seeing all the new fall wraps come alive on my facebook stream. Maybe someday I will be a lucky winner of a draw. Until then, me and my three wraps will continue playing and practicing until I master a FWCC or CCCB.. whatevs.
My new Didymos wooly arrived in time for this blog! The picture doesn't capture the hot pink and red gorgeous color with Indian elephant print. LOVE.

Happy babywearing!


babyled weaning is the pits

So I wrote a post earlier about baby food and babyled weaning, yada yada yada, I thought I was cool shit with my BLW futuristic yet prehistoric ways, but then I decided that BLW is the pits and really for the privileged few. Here's why:

Once the sun starts setting, babies similar to gremlins start turning into a less cute monster version of themselves. If you're anything like me, evenings are a stressful, chaotic mess to try and get things done before bedtime, and those things are really just dinner.

Avi starts full meltdown around 7:30, so I have to find time somewhere before then to stuff my face and sometimes hers. Recently I decided that the "meal" I would start adding routinely would be dinner so that we could both enjoy dinner together. In all honesty, my goal is for me to eat some food with both hands free and baby not gremlinizing me.

I get my dinner all set and ready around 6, put Avi in her high chair with some sort of food nuggets for her to chomp happily on while I eat and throw back some shots. Just kidding. Kinda.

In reality, here's what takes place.

I'm so paranoid about her choking that I'm constantly staring at her while trying to get my own food into my mouth. The dog is breathing his hot breath at me begging for anyone's scraps. Food is flung onto the floor and into hair, basically anywhere but mouth which as you can imagine is frustrating which equals baby whining. This is like watching your drunk friend eat late night food. It's just awful. I have to give more food globs to gremlin baby and shovel more food quickly into my mouth with a swig of something alcoholic.The clock is ticking. In about 5 minutes I've consumed my entire meal of who the hell knows what and some beverage. Relaxing right?

Dinner time is over, but then I look at my child who is a food-filled sticky gooey mess. I dry heave slightly just from looking at her. How the hell do I clean this? Nothing will wipe all this down. The second I wipe one hand and move to the other, the clean hand is grabbing some goo again and the process continues for eternity I suppose. So apparently it's bath time.

I have to gather all the bath gear (we do bath's in the kitchen sink), so then I have to clean anything that's in the sink and prepare for a baby butt to be there. Off go the crunchy clothes and in goes baby. Luckily Avi loves bath time and all things filled with water.

The real exciting part is that once I get Avi to sleep and have time to myself, I get to clean the rest of the goo mess in the kitchen. Wipe down the highchair and all the nooks and crannies, finding old dried goo in there. Gag me. If the dog has wandered off and there's a mess on the floor, now I'm on my hands and knees like Cinderella wiping up food excrement and dust bunnies. Oh, that's right, the clothes have food drool on them, which will stain unless I start the soaking process now. Better go back downstairs to do that.

Finally everything is cleaned and I'm exhausted and think, "did I have dinner?" Oh yeah, I can barely remember because I swallowed it whole. I should just start having smoothies for dinner.

This is why it's nonsense to do BLW unless you have a cleaning crew like damn Martha Stewart. All I want is some organic, non-processed, real food that comes mushed up and ready for baby to eat so I can fill my pie hole with processed greasy dinner and we can all go to bed happy. Seriously. The alternative is to exclusively breastfeed Avi until she is probably around 6 or whatever age these gremlins can get food into their mouths without a mess.

The idea is cool, but lets face it, I'm way too lazy and just not trendy enough to do BLW full-time.



breastfeeding fashion for world breastfeeding week!

In honor of world breastfeeding week I thought I would talk about nursing fashion, and I'm not talking about scrubs for nurses, I'm talking about clothes that allow quick acccess to those boobies.

1. Baju Mama tops- First of all these tops are my all time favorite nursing tops. They can be worn on the weekend with leggings or jeans, but I also pair with skinny J. Crew crops for work. They are easy for both nursing and pumping. Not the cheapest, however they're amazeballs. If you're a little hesitant to nurse in public without a cover, these are the tops for you, super discreet, just get that 'lil nip out and you're ready to go. Baju Mama top from Figure 8 maternity, also, Figure8Maternity is my go to store for all things nursing, they steal my dollars.

Hard to tell but the top has a slit across the top and one part of the top folds up so you can nurse.                  Super sleuth style.
2. Another fave top is by Molly Ades, again not super cheap, but doesn't look like a nursing top and allows for very discreet nursing plus pumping. Molly Ades awesomeness. When I talk about tops being good for both nursing and pumping it's because some tops have slits on the sides for nursing as opposed to a slit across the whole top, and are horrible to try and pump from...no bueno.

The left picture I'm nursing Avi during a baseball game, super discreet I doubt anyone could see a thing.

3. Want to get crafty? The easiest style to throw together uses really stretchy tank tops as a base layer.  They need to be stretchy enough to pull down and under boobies, so make sure to test that out. No joke, my favorite stretchy tanks came from Costco. So weird, but like $10 for a 2 pack. Put tank on and any top over, then when going to nurse, just lift up first layer and pull down tank. Voila! No tummy exposed and no fleshy top boob exposed either. Good for nursing and you can still do this with pumping. Bottom left picture displays the fancy turquoise tank top from Costco layered with a black tee. I'm pretty sure these are the tanks Costco tank tops. Thank me later.

4. If you are smaller boobied (lucky you), there are nursing tanks that you could just wear around or pair with a cardigan and then you can skip the nursing bra altogether. I however, would be arrested if I unleashed these beasts without some sort of holding contraption. These should be a staple in your hospital bag and will also get you through the first few weeks/months post-partum. Love Glamourmom nursing tanks.

5. Another funky wardrobe staple that is good for pumping and nursing is the Undercover Mama tank, which allows you to wear a nursing bra, but only deal with the nursing bra straps, Undercover mama tank is strapless and attaches to any nursing bra. This gives you tummy coverage when you pull up another top and pull down this tank by un-clipping nursing bra. God that sounds complicated, probably just go look at the picture and you'll get it.

6. As far as nursing bras are concerned, there are so many brands out there and it really depends on chest size in my opinion. I think everyone should have a sleep bra, especially for the first few months, however I still sleep in mine. Bravado makes the most popular sleep bra. Since my milk tanks are the size of your head, my bra selection is limited. Nordstrom will fit you and they have a good classic selection of nursing bras, they will also take a non-nursing bra and convert it for you for a small fee. 

Some people get lucky with Target brand nursing bras, again, you have to have at least close to normal boob size, so those are a joke for me. I would recommend getting fitted professionally so the bra fits and doesn't cut into breast tissue which can cause plugged ducts and mastitis and decrease in supply and just pure awful. Also wait until 4-6 weeks to drop cash on a real nursing bra (other than sleep bra), because your full supply of milk won't come in until then and your size could change, which means you just threw money away on a bra that will give you a double bubble in your top.

HAPPY WORLD BREASTFEEDING WEEK! 
TAKE THEM BOOBIES OUT LOUD AND PROUD AND FEED THOSE CHILDREN!



Most needed baby gear (0-3months and 3-6months)


ugh, so it's been awhile since I've posted last... I took a new job that's all patient care, which means less time at a computer to quick put together a blog, plus Avi is almost 7 months which means she requires more attention. The last blog was about my 30 day MILF challenge, which needless to say has been a flop... there was the 4th of July weekend in there plus starting a new job, probably not the best time to try and start a routine. I am still getting the hang of things with working 3 days a week now and figuring out when/how I will work out. I also had my progress written down in my iPhone, I mean all the work outs I was doing, I was 15 days in when it ALL got erased. UGH.

Anyways, a few people have asked about most needed baby stuff. I had a post before about baby/mom necessities, but that was in the beginning so I have more to add to the list and will break it down to the 0-3month category and 3-6+months, some obviously can be used from 0 and up. There's a lot of baby fluff that people will try and sell you. Don't fall for so many of the gimmicks. Once you're in mom territory you will realize that fluff is just crap that clutters up your house. No bueno.

(I was not paid by any of these products to put them on my list, although probably I should be)

0-3months:

1. Puj bathtub-
Puj laying flat to add squish to our kitchen sink. Can be folded to mold to a bathroom sink.
We used this since Avi was born and are still using it. It takes up no space at all, we hang it on the back of a bathroom door where it dries super fast. When baby is small you can fold it to use in a sink. Now that Avi is older and bigger, we lay the Puj flat in the kitchen sink where she splashes around. Don't feel you need the tub that constantly circulates water and keeps it at a constant temperature. Sounds great, but really? Does that baby tub need batteries too?
2. peanut changing table- the best most awesome. So many changing pads require a cover, which is nuts because the last thing I want to do is more laundry. No thanks. This changing pad is made out of the same material as the Bumbo chair, so it wipes down easily and is not porous so it doesn't accumulate bacteria. It's awesome sauce.Plus mine is pink.
3. Aden + Anais swaddle blankets- dudes, these things are large enough to swaddle, large enough to place over a stroller for some shade, but lightweight enough to use in both summer and winter. Not ready to nurse in public? Some people use them as a cover (don't spend your money on gimmicky nursing covers).
4. Halo sleepsack swaddle- a straight-jacket for babies, apparently they like that sort of thing. Keeps them all snuggly bundled and ready for sleep. What more could you ask for?
5. Arms Reach CoSleeper bassinet- you could be super awesome brave mom and have your baby sleep in their crib in a nursery when you bring them home from the hospital, or like me, I need my baby near me at night, especially for ease of feeding. This co-sleeper is handy because you can drop one side, making it easy to reach babe from your bed. It comes in a regular size and a mini.
6. Born Free glass bottles with slow flow/newborn nipple- There's all the hype about plastic and BPA-free shenanigans, now they're also saying that even BPA-free plastic isn't safe because it contains estrogen or some crap. Whatever, maybe it's true, maybe not. I decided not to mess with that and move to glass bottles. Born Free glass bottles are fantastic coming in small 5oz bottles and large 8oz bottles. If you're breastfeeding, kiddo should always use a slow flow, level 1 nipple.
7. Boon grass bottle drying rack- Once you wash all the damn baby bottle gear, you need a cute place to dry it, and this grass bottle rack is literally in everyone's house. get one.
8. Earth Mama Angel baby bottom cream- You can tell by the name it's magic. Cures everything, probably even cancer. Organic and made of angels, it's amazing for diaper rash's and really any skin issue. Also it's one diaper ointment that is safe to use with cloth diapers.
9. Tula soft structured carrier-
There are so many carrier options out there, I probably should blog about that, but in the meantime get a soft structured carrier as one of your carriers. The most popular or well known SSC is the Ergo, however I find the Tula to be more comfortable and in better patterns and colors. The Kinderpack is also a popular one.(Whatever you do, don't get a Bjorn).... I had to.
10. Honest Company diaper delivery- Not sold on cloth diapering? Well at least use diapers that don't sit in the earth for all eternity, are made out of plant materials so less irritating than diapers containing dyes and perfumes, and as a bonus they come in super cute patterns... a double bonus is that you can have it delivered to your house. easy peasy. I get my diapers and wipes from there, you can schedule a routine delivery, like every 6 weeks for example so you don't have to think about it.
11. Moby wrap- Like I said above, you will want a few types of carriers, at least in my obsession I do. The Moby wrap is fantastic from the newborn stage to about 15 pounds. This carrier looks really overwhelming at first because of the long piece of material, but trust me, once you try a few times, it's a dream and super easy to use and most babies love it.
12. oodles and oodles of pacifiers and pacifier clips- Maybe you're a mom who doesn't want to introduce a pacifier, well bless you and good luck, I would not have survived. We have pacifiers every square inch of our condo. They make my life a little easier. You don't want that pacifier falling on the floor into fido's fur pile? Then get a clip for that paci!
13. Boon clutch dishwasher basket-This should be up by the grass drying rack... meh, too lazy. This dishwasher basket is good for all the small bottle parts like nipples or caps. The title explains the use--->goes in dishwasher.
14. Play mat- Really good for tummy time, and no mom likes tummy time.
15. Planetwise wet/dry bags- This bags are really good if you're doing cloth diapering, however, even if you're not, these bags come in a variety of sizes and can be good for poop-exploded clothes, or swim suits... anything wet or gooey can be thrown in this bag, and then the bag can be thrown in your wash machine later! Boom. Don't need to waste plastic baggies for nonsense.
16. GroVia hybrid cloth diapers- I've tried a multitude of cloth diapering systems/brands (again, should be a blog) and have to say that GroVia are my ultimate fave. Easy to use with a snap-in insert, instead of a stuffed insert. The sizing is a one-size fits all, however I find that even with my fatty tuna newborn of 9 pounds 11 ounces, she was still too small for the fluffy butt cloths.
17. Dekor Plus diaper pail- This is the most awesome diaper pail I think there is. Lots of people know about the diaper genie....meh. The dekor plus can be used for disposable or cloth diapers which is a unique feature. The bags on the inside tear off as opposed to all being individually sized. For example, if you want to throw one diaper away, you can tear the bag off at that point so you're not wasting an entire bag for one diaper. Apparently it can also be used with kitchen bags, although I have not tested that out yet. It has a foot pedal to open the lid so you don't have to touch a bunch of yuck.

3-6 months:
1. Jumparoo- An entertainment bouncy ADD-thing that Avi loves. You sit them in there and they can jump until their little hearts burst. There's music and lights and things dangling. Too much stimulation for me, but the little's tend to like it. Avi couldn't use it until about 4+ months. They need to have head control to sit in there and not flop over like raggedy Ann.
2. Peg-Perego high chair-
OMG who thought picking out a high chair was so overwhelming. We were ready to drop some serious cash for the ultra modern beauty of a high chair since our condo is city modern. We went and played with all the high chairs, including the pretty famous Stokke, and then were introduced to the Peg-prego and it was a done deal. Multiple heights up and down, the chair can also recline so you can use it from birth and up. It has wheels so you can move it around the kitchen and it's super easy to clean. It's sweetness.See Avi waving at you? She wants you to get one.
3. Uppa Baby G-Luxe umbrella stroller- I think I've mentioned this beauty in like 40 of my other blog entries. As far as umbrella strollers go, this is the best. With almost a flat recline, you can use this from about 3 months and up. Has a great sunshade with a UVB shade extender. Super easy collapse and open and I believe it's the lightest one available. The extra bonus is for like $50 you can buy the travel bag which guarantees against airline damage for 2 years. YES.
4. Nogginstik-This was Avi's first toy. It's a pretty cool developmental toy that lights up different colors, makes noises and has different textures.
5. Sophie-Great for chomping on.
show it sister!

6. Woven wrap-
Yes, I am obsessed with baby wearing and various carriers. Once the little outgrows the Moby and you still want to babywear because it's awesome, woven wraps are handy because they are sturdy enough to carry toddlers. They take a little more time to learn wrapping techniques but unlike the moby, they can be used for back carries. The world of woven wraps is unlimited and sometimes even snobbish.Check out your local Babywearing International group, they usually have a library of carriers that you can try before you buy.
7. Babyganics hand and face wipes-I keep these in my stroller for messes and goo's. They are pretty natural, obviously free of alcohol and safe for newborns too.
8. Babyled weaning cook book- Once you start to introduce solids (6 months, not before), baby led weaning is a great concept of food in its original state as opposed to purees. We do a combination of both at times, mainly for ease and for different caretakers. There are two BLW books, one all about BLW and one that's a cookbook, however the cookbook tells you enough about BLW that it's the best one to get.
9. Infantino fresh squeezed food line-  Like I said, we are doing a combo of BLW and purees. With the fresh squeezed food line, I can make my own puree and then package it into the squeeze bags you often see in stores, however it's with my own food, thus no preservatives. These bags are a one time use, some others you wash and re-use, however here were many reviews that spoke of mold forming since the bags are impossible to wash completely clean. Plus it would just be another thing to wash. No thanks. Some added bonuses, they can be frozen for use at a later date, and you can get a spoon attachment, which means there's an option for baby squeezing into mouth (usually older kids) or a spoon on the end so the caregiver can squeeze a bit of puree onto spoon, and voila!

For mom:
1. Nursing tanks like Glamourmom- you will live in some nursing tanks for awhile. Don't buy a nursing bra until about 4-6 weeks post-partum, that's when all your milk will be in. They are expensive so you don't want to buy too soon and then have the bra be too small.
2. nipple cream- if you're breast feeding, the first few weeks or so your nipples will feel like firery rawness. Find some organic soothing nipple cream that is also okay for baby to ingest. You don't want to have to bother with wiping it off.
3. easy snacks and protein drinks/smoothies- some moms like myself had no appetite the first few weeks, but as a nursing mom you need to get those calories in, so it's easiest with handy high protein snacks or drinks.I drank the Naked drinks (I later found out they are loaded with GMO's or some crap. Ugh, we can't all win)
4. join a new mom's group- Avi was a winter baby, so joining a new moms group was crucial to my survival, however I think it can be beneficial for everyone. It lets you meet other moms in your same situation. Kinda like group therapy! I still get together with my mom group; Avi was about 5 weeks old when we went to our first group meeting, now she's almost 7 months!



30 day MILF challenge

I don't want to post this because then I will be held accountable and who likes that.

I know that I carried another human inside me for almost a year and blah blah blah but I don't need to look like I'm living my life in the bloated first trimester again, but I be shallow like that. 

Today marks the start of my get-my-shit-together-earn-that-MILF card- 30 day challenge. 
here we go...
I will eat as clean as possible, limit myself to one dessert or less per week (my weakness) and work out every day for 30 days. Work outs will be at least 30 minutes in length and at least 3-4 days a week will include intense cardio/strength training.
ugh.
the human that made my body her first home
not impressed, also feel free to ignore the absurd hugeness of my boobs
Hold me accountable so you don't have to hold my pannus
Pan-nus: noun.
Example: A large roll of abdominal fat which can extend anywhere from the genitals to, in some cases, all the way past the knees. Thank you Urban Dictionary!

Motivating comments, fun exercises or healthy recipes always welcome!


Have you seen my marbles? Or maybe my baseball?

I wonder if I can get and manicure and pedicure when I get home from work tonight. My moms staying over so maybe she can watch Avi while I get pampered a little. My toes are queen of busted-ville right now.

I get home from work and Avi has just finished a bottle but my mom brain still worries she had missed my boobies and will starve to death while I'm selfishly getting a mani/pedi, so I force my boob at her anyways. 

I walk swiftly to the closest nail salon. The place is empty. Score. I don't have to wait. I've never been to this place before, it seems nice. I can't wait to plant my mom-shaped ass in one of those large squishy massage chairs. Yes, I said mom-shape, because even if you loose the baby weight, your body shape changes so that you can more appropriately fit into mom jeans. Totes mcgotes.

A white man sits me down to pick out my color. I ask if they're doing a manicure first because that would be crazy, and I didn't understand why I was sitting at the manicure station instead of soaking my dragon toes. The white man (I emphasize white man because in nail salons it's strange and unnatural...) tells me the girls are going to work on me at the same time. WHAT? What am I a supermodel? I mean obvi, but I was still surprised. And yes, he did refer to them as girls.

So I'm sitting in the massage chair with two women working on my hands and feet. Shit I forgot to wax. I want to explain I'm a new mom and I'm sorry for my leg bush. Wait, is that hair on my big toe? Holy hell. Who would put hair there?! I really need to pull it together. I wonder what Avi is doing. I hope she's not hungry. I'm obsessed with her hunger needs.

Then a woman asks if I would like my diamond ring cleaned. No thank you. I'm pretty sure that's a ploy to swap my diamond for some CZ garbage. God I'm an asshole, I should be less paranoid.

Wait so is this white man married to one of the Asian women working here? I creepily stare at them to piece together this puzzle. Maybe he's a polygamist married to all the girls? Or it was an arranged marriage. Shit that's racist.

The white man offers me a cup of water, which I accept and think, yes let's hydrate my boobie milk supply so I can flood Avi with my goods when I get home. I notice the girls politely smiling at me as I sip at my water. What are they smiling at? They poisoned my water so they could rob me, didn't they?

Have I lost it completely? Yeah done with the water, too risky. If they did that, would someone find my body, or would they stash it in the back of the salon? Was I always this crazy? No, this is what being an adult is like. I must look out for myself because I'm someone's mom now. Obviously. 

It's so quiet in here. Why isn't anyone else getting pampered after work? Is Avi hungry yet? I wonder what she's doing.

Is this foot massage going to trigger a let down of my milk? That would be such a waste. I also don't feel like walking home with wet bulls eyes over my hazardously large milk sacks. In all seriousness though, I hope they take credit cards here or I'll have to make a mad dash and we all know I should not run with large marge and big carol. Yes, those are the names of my new friends that take up space somewhere under my neck and above my bellybutton.

During the sleeper grip neck massage I thought again about having let down. Damn boobies. As I was leaving, white man talked to me about his loyal customers and how long they've been in business. Maybe he's not so bad after all. He does seem quite nice. I'll give a larger tip for my secret judge fest the past hour.

What day is it? Oh yeah, Tuesday. I should blog when I get home. Unless Avi is hungry, then I can feed her and then blog? 

I have lost my marbles. I'm pretty sure only crazy people have this many thoughts at once. When did I get this crazy and frazzled? Hmmm. I wonder if Avi is hungry yet. I should speed walk home.



How to job interview when you're constantly pumping those boobies.

Since I've become a new mama, I have started looking into a job change. One thing I realized is that when you're a pumping mama, you're constantly thinking about the next time to pump, where you're going to pump, where you're going to store the milk and if you're going to pump enough for the next feeding. This is why I can't function in life. This must be what it's like to be a man, constantly thinking about breasts (sorry, I couldn't resist)
shocked. or thinking about breasts.

I've had a few interviews where I have had to pump. The biggest interview was in Denver, CO. I was told the interview was going to be a full 8 hour day. Holy crap, my boobies, was all I could think. I had no idea the age of the woman that was coordinating my interview day, but I had to open the lines of communication right away and explain that I was a pumping mama and would need some breaks built into the interview schedule, and also a place to pump and store the milk. I was pretty nervous thinking that they would roll their eyes and immediately cancel my interview since I was too much of a burden. To my surprise, they were more than accommodating. They sent me the schedule to approve my pump breaks and said there would be an office to pump in, store my pump parts and a refrigerator to store the milk, they even said my husband could bring the baby to me during the breaks if that was easier. During the interview, the admin was adamant about bringing me back to the office on time so I could pump. The breaks were 30-60 minutes in length, which was adequate time to pump. The office was spacious with views of the mountains. They surpassed my expectations on accommodating my pumping needs during a full day of interviewing.

Another big interview was at a hospital in Chicago. The hospital is only a few miles from my house, and the interview was only scheduled to last 2 hours, but I don't like going more than 2 hours between pump sessions, so I knew I would need to pump shortly before the interview and after, but where? I could've pumped in my car, except the garage nearest the hospital was valet only, so I couldn't sit in the car and pump and didn't feel like pumping and driving for fear of being anxious in morning traffic and having zero let down. I posted the question of how/where to pump in this situation on a Facebook breast feeding group (they're amazing, join your local group), and they told me the hospital I was interviewing at had a few pumping rooms. BOOM. Problem solved. I packed my smaller pump and cooler bag and got to the interview about 40 minutes early so I could pump and relax. The room was large with a comfy chair and sink. It was perfect. I also packed a few extra cooler packs to ensure that my milk would stay relatively cold during the interview and my shopping spree after... (husband, this is simply untrue. I went to the library to do research).
pumping away in the hospital pump room

The last interview I had was less time and more relaxed for me, but also in a non-hospital facility, so I pumped before and after in my car and again had a few extra cooler packs to keep my milk cold. Lots of people talk about the struggle with pumping in the car, mostly due to the type of pump. I have a Medela Freestyle breast pump. It runs on batteries, so if it's charged you don't have to worry about outlets or getting a car adapter outlet. It's also very small, slightly bigger than a soda can I'd say. So throwing that into a bag is not a huge deal. Because of my insurance, I was able to get the Medela freestyle covered and then ended up switching insurances once baby was born so I decided to get a Medela pump in style advanced to keep in my office and not lug back and forth. The freestyle isn't as efficient for me, however it's fantastic for traveling or using in the car.

PUMP ON WORKING MAMAS. PUMP ON.


I'm a petri dish filled with flu.

So in November when I was 8 months preggo, I was super lucky and won the flu lottery. I was so sick it took me out of work for a week, which is neat because I could've used those PTO days for maternity leave, but nah, I wanted to use them to stay at home and feel like death. That's the magic maternity leave system we have here, you get to use up all your PTO and then short term disability pays you about $1.25 a day, but only for 6 weeks, so if you take 12 weeks off, well then you get to volunteer your 6 weeks of time, yup unpaid leave! Anyways, I digress...

I was so huge from pregnancy, that my baseline body temp was somewhere between burning and extra burning. Add a fever to the mix and it was pure fiery hell. The coughing was the worst. Your belly is stretched to the max so using your abs to cough uncontrollably makes me wonder how I didn't just split myself open like a c-section. I thought having the flu while pregnant was the worst thing, but then my midwife told me she had shingles during her pregnancy. Alright, you win that one shingle queen.

So now I won the flu lottery again, a mere 7 months later, it's pretty excellent, but now I have a 5 month old to add to my snotty tissue mix. Being sick while you have a baby to tend to is actually worse than flu-ing while pregnant. I still think shingles wins them both however. So the fun fact of a breastfeeding mama with the flu is that I can't really take anything, not because it's bad for baby but because everything has a risk of drying up my damn milk. Yup, those glorious medicines that dry up your snot machine also dry up the milk barn. I can take Tylenol, that's it. It's a party up in here, be jelly. Thus, I will be a coughing, snot-nosed mess for who knows how long. Also, the other part that makes this worse is that I have a tiny human to care for and hopefully not get her sick. The good thing is that breast milk has good tasty antibodies, hopefully protecting her from this flu garbage.

That's all for today. My brain is mush, or similar to those fried eggs on the commercial about your brain being on drugs. That's my brain, except I only wish for drugs.

Wash your hands you dirty people and quit spreading your flu to me.
she's too gangsta to get sick



Avocado, bananas, and chicken. The ABC's of introducing real food to wee ones.

Starting your baby on solids can be new and exciting, however there is a lot of misguided or outdated information and providers who push parents to start solids (infant cereal) too early. Here is some information on why you may want to hold off on the solid food craze and why you also may want to make better choices for first foods.
a better choice for first food is obviously a donut...
Many articles state that solids can be introduced between 4 and 6 months, however there are also studies that show parents are starting solids even earlier than 4 months( CBS news article ). Years ago, I'm talking in the 40s and 50s, parents left the hospital with cereal in their babies bottles. Times have definitely changed since then but some parents are still misguided when it comes to food introduction. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusively breastfeeding for at least 6 months (AAP), which is contradictory to how many pediatricians practice, encouraging parents to start solids at 4 months.

Many pediatricians still recommend starting baby on infant rice cereals as their first food, mainly because the cereals are fortified with iron. FORTIFIED=not naturally occurring. When people talk about cereals, it most often refers to infant rice cereal (regular oatmeal is a healthier option for babies). Grains/starches are typically harder to digest because you need amylase to break them down. Infants are born with very little amylase and continue to produce more in the 4-6 month range, which is why many providers say it's okay to start these starches, however the amylase that a 4 or 6 month old produces, is still considerably less than and adult or even a toddler. Hold on hold on, saliva contains amylase which can help break down the starches, and also breast milk contains amylase as well, so maybe babies can digest starches and grains fine? Possibly, however should this be their first food? Are there any nutritional values in these processed cereals?

Many people want to attack the baby cereal industry, however there are a few things to look at first. Cereals are fortified with iron and other vitamins/nutrients that babies need, especially starting at 6 months. Some research points to gluten intolerance with babies that are introduced to grains too late in life (8+ months), so maybe there's a balance that we need to understand. Yet, infant cereals are still a processed food, and breast milk contains iron, but is it enough past 6 months? Maybe the processed infant cereals are not the starch or grain that should be introduced. So then what? Healthy Children, an informative website by the American Academy of Pediatrics states that there's no medical evidence that cereal should be the first food introduced, it's just tradition. TRADITION! (Healthy Children).

How about starting with real food!? Before baby cereals were produced by the big food companies, babies were eating real food, sometimes steamed, sometimes blended, and other times whole. Baby led weaning (BLW) is a new phenomenon yet an old one. Don't confuse the term "weaning" with weaning a baby from breast. BLW starts at 6 months or later when baby shows an interest in food- this is key. What does that mean? Your baby should be able to hold head up properly, baby should have the absence of the tongue thrust reflex which is a reflex to push things out of their mouth- a protective mechanism in babies that eventually goes away, allowing them to swallow food that is placed in mouth. Some babies do not show an interest in real food, so no need to force them, we should take cues from the baby, not the calendar. For example, my babe Avielle is just about 5 months, and like other moms, we got the green light from our pediatrician to start baby cereals. I know that Avi still has the tongue thrust reflex and is just not mature enough to start solids, she's still happy and healthy with her all you can eat breast milk buffet.

Baby led weaning does not talk about blending, mashing, or steaming foods- no need to buy that baby blender or steamer! It's simply offering babies regular food, often parts of the meal the family is enjoying (with some discretion). For example, if the family is eating chicken, then give piece to baby to explore. Obviously at the early stages, more food is going on the floor or on their face then in tummies, so this is not for major nutritional value at first, more to help baby learn eating habits and build dexterity with hands and fingers. As a bonus they get to eat good tasty food, not weird veggie fruit mashed combos that would make anyone else gag, and mamas don't need to spend time prepping baby food. WIN WIN. This is yet another reason babies must be at least 6 months, so they are able to reach and hold pieces of their own food. Baby Led Weaning website offers a ton of information on how to start. Iron is an important part of infant development, which is why iron fortified cereals are pushed. After the age of 6 months, it's thought that babies need more iron than breast milk can provide, however there are healthy foods that can be added to the diet that are iron rich, such as:
  • winter squash
  • sweet potatoes
  • prune juice
  • meat & poultry (beef, beef & chicken liver, turkey, chicken)
  • mushrooms
  • sea vegetables (arame, dulse), algaes (spirulina), kelp
  • greens (spinach, chard, dandelion, beet, nettle, parsley, watercress)
  • meat (pork)
  • shellfish (clams, oysters, shrimp) *be aware of food allergies
  • tuna, sardines
Once you start introducing foods to your kiddo, it's important to be aware of food allergies or sensitivities. If you have a family history of a food allergy, especially an anaphylaxis reaction, you will want to delay offering that food and talk to your pediatrician before starting that food. You may also want to introduce one food at a time over a few days (about 4) to make sure no allergy or sensitivity develops. Start with low risk allergen foods and start new foods in morning so an allergy doesn't develop overnight (you would hate to wake up to see a rash filled baby). Food allergies can be terrifying and there's no way in knowing if your little one will develop an allergy or not, so it's best to be prepared and observant. I would also recommend starting with organic foods so that all the gross additives or pesticides are not in the food you're giving little one, those can cause reactions as well. This is a good food allergy chart that shows when you should introduce high sensitivity foods.

Is your head spinning yet?

The most important take away points are to hold off on feeding your baby until they are absolutely ready (at least 6 months) and know that there are better choices of food other than infant rice cereal.

HAPPY EATING!




that liquid gold:info on pumping, storage and indulging in a few cocktails

When you get home from the hospital and have decided to give breast feeding a try, all you can really wrap your head around is getting the hang of feeding your kid. A few weeks or months pass and then other questions arise, like how to pump, how to store, and most importantly can I have a cocktail? Hopefully this answers all your questions!

**there is little research being done regarding breast milk so many of the resources out there are on the conservative side with a lot of guess work, hopefully soon we will have a better understanding of breast milk, it's properties and benefits**

1. Pumping: Unless you are exclusively pumping (props to those mamas),  you don't need to bust out your pump right away, unless you want to stimulate some milk production or are working with a LC to make sure in the future you know how to use it. In the beginning focus on nursing your babe on demand, they are more efficient in milk production than your pump! Once you have gotten the hang of nursing, you can try out the pump.All pumps are different, so make sure you read the manual of your specific model. Bottles and pump parts need to be sterilized the first time, this can be done with boiling water or in the dishwasher, after that only soap and warm water needed.
  • If you're pumping multiple sessions in a day, you don't need to wash your parts in between, just put pump parts in the refrigerator(you can put parts in a plastic baggie in the fridge if that's easier). 
  • At the end of the day wash the parts with soapy water
  • Pumping into bottles or bags? It's a personal preference really, and depends on what you're doing with the milk. If you're freezing, you could pump right into a bag (not all pump models have the attachment). I personally pump into the Medela bottles for more accurate ounce measurement then pour into bags and write the # of ounces on the bags with date.
  • If you have a sudden decrease in output when pumping, try and change some of the pump parts. Remember your output when pumping does not correlate to how much milk you're producing. Again, your baby is much more efficient "pump".
  • When pumping, the best thing to do is relax and not watch the bottle, it will stop a letdown quickly. Instead do mindless activities or look at pictures of your babe. (I always feel a little creepy pumping and fawning over my baby, but it works :)
  • Another technique is manual expression, it takes time and patience but can give you more output http://newborns.stanford.edu/Breastfeeding/HandExpression.html (video does contain breasts and pumping mamas!)
2. Storage of milk:
  • Freshly pumped milk can be left out at room temperature for up to 8 hours
  • If your babe drinks from the bottle but doesn't finish it, there is not a lot of evidence on the number of hours you can save the milk, anywhere from 1-48+ hours, so obviously there's little research or knowledge. I have put the half used bottle back in the fridge and used 2 days later without issues. The thing is, your milk will smell SOUR if it's bad, and your babe won't drink it. Refrigeration also decreases the bacteria growth in the milk from the babies mouth.
  • Milk can be in the refrigerated up to 8 days
  • Milk can be in the freezer for up to 12 months, so be sure to put exact date on the bags! (I made this mistake the first month of making a freezer stash). The freezer does not have to be a deep freezer, contradictory to some early articles.
  • If you take a frozen bag and thaw, use within 24-48 hours, but again, there's not a lot of research on this. To thaw a bag, you can put in the refrigerator or run bag under hot water (I use hot water, it thaws very quickly), never microwave breast milk.
3. Alcohol and a breast feeding mama: I wish I could give you hard evidence for this, but again, this is understudied and not very know with a lot of mixed sources.
  •  Many sources will state drinking alcohol in moderation is fine for a breast feeding mama, and I agree. Abstaining from alcohol for the duration of breast feeding just isn't expected and here's a little of why:
    • by the time your body metabolizes alcohol, there's a small amount that can pass through the breast milk, and again, we aren't sure exactly how much or how soon after alcohol is consumed, but it is a fraction of your blood alcohol volume and also dependent on your alcohol consumption.
    • Lactation consultants and pediatricians agree that drinking alcohol during breastfeeding can be done if done in moderation
    • The current rule of thumb is, if you can drive a car, then you're fine to nurse baby
    • If you're such a rockstar mama that you have a little one and are able to get sloshed (I'm jealous), then you can do a few things: you can pump and split the milk to mix later with "non-alcohol" milk, you can use the milk for something other than bottle feeding, or you can wait and sober up and nurse... whatever you do NEVER DUMP YOUR MILK!
    • If you're not comfortable with that, here are some non-food uses for breast milk http://parentingpatch.com/healing-uses-of-breast-milk/
    • If you're still paranoid at first then have a drink while you nurse... breast milk is magic, but it's not THAT magical to pass through your body that quickly.
    • Some people say that alcohol can increase milk output or at least help with let down. Many people say the yeast in beer is best. I personally find that rum, for whatever reason makes me leak and produce more, no idea why, just have found that correlation.
    • In the end you just have to figure out what you're comfortable with
4. Bottle feeding a breast fed baby: I find this really important and often not well known. When you breast feed your baby, it's work for that baby to suck milk from your nipple. When you introduce a bottle you want to make sure that the nipple and the way you feed the baby closely mimics breast feeding so that first, your baby won't get used to a faster flow and become discouraged at the breast and second, your babe isn't getting overfed at the bottle.
  • Breastfed babies should always drink from a bottle  using a slow flow (level 1) nipple. The nipple levels correlate with age, however if you're still breast feeding, you'll want to stay at a level 1. Again, this will mimic the flow of your breast.
  • You or your caregivers should do paced bottle feeding, again this will mimic feeding from the breast and not allow for your baby to get used to a quick meal. This technique also helps caregivers avoid over feeding and blowing through your frozen stash of precious gold.  Here's a great video that explains paced bottle feeding: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UH4T70OSzGs
A few extras:
  • You will meet people who will know someone who knew someone that had their milk dry up because of this or that. In most cases, your milk will change as your baby grows, and you may go through times of over supply or times of low supply, but unless you stop feeding or pumping frequently enough, your supply should not dry up.
  • There's never any reason to give your exclusively breast fed infant (less than 6 mo) water. Breast milk is about 88% water and even in hot weather, you do not need to offer a baby water, just nurse more in hot weather..
  • There are medications that are safe with breast feeding. The most knowledgeable people are infant risk, they have a hotline where you can call and ask about certain medications and the safety with breast feeding: (p) 806-352-2519
  • If your babe doesn't seem to take a bottle of thawed milk, try scalding the milk right after pumping and then freeze it. You can also try mixing part frozen and part fresh.
  • People will talk about hind milk and fore milk. This has turned out to be a myth. Your body will adjust how much fat is needed. You will see sometimes you have more fat in your milk and sometimes it will be watery. Either is fine and great for baby, trust your body! Also, breast milk can vary in color. Times it will be white, yellow, grey or blue. If it's pink, most likely you have a cracked nipple, still fine to feed baby.
  • If you have a great freezer stash without a need for it, look into donation. Again, never throw out that milk! (unless it's obviously sour)
  • I always recommend seeing a lactation consultant in hospital and about a week after you leave the hospital. I recommend this no matter if you think you have no issues with latch, ect, they are very helpful with offering advice, showing you new techniques or more efficient ways to do things.  
  • Make sure your pediatrician and any other providers you or baby see are supportive of breast feeding and do not push you to stop or add anything into the bottle (NICU babies and failure to thrive babies can be the exception)
  • Lastly, find local groups that encourage breast feeding and offer advice, wisdom and support. This is a learned activity and you don't have to do it alone!
mama's do it all for these fat rolls

Websites with helpful information:
Kellymom: a very informational website, but there are some areas that are yet to be updated
La Leche League
Infant Risk

nurse on mamas. nurse on.


 
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