weirdness that happens close to your due date

So I am exactly a week from my due date, but probably this stubborn fat baby will wait until she's forced out, because that's what her mom did too. We tend to like warm bodies of water, so she's probably chillin. I can't believe she doesn't want to come out and experience New Year's Eve or her parents anniversary. What a little 'B.

There have been some changes in the past few weeks, but especially in the past week. I know it's my body prepping for labor, but still, why does it have to get so weird?

1. heightened sense of smell- holy moses, I'm like a cat with catnip. Laundry dryer sheets drive me wild. I can't explain it. I want to bury my face so hard in their smell and rub it all over my body. I want to take multiple whiffs it's so amazing. The same effect with hand soaps and fizzy bath balls. I can't get enough.Bad news bears when I got a whiff of rubber cement today at work and most likely got high from sniffing glue.  Next thing you know I'll be on TLC's "My strange addiction." Is this normal to have a sudden increase in sense of smell? Just thinking about it makes me want to roll around in dryer sheets.

2. The big question- I've gotten this question from friends, but also strangers who have yelled it across a lobby. "how dilated are you!?" I'm not a super personal person, but I feel like asking a stranger how big their cervix hole is, is just weird. Also, I have no idea because my midwives don't constantly stick their fingers in your hole when your dilation and effacement don't really mean much. Nah, I'm good... I'll assume it's doin it's thang. Get stretchy mr.cervix, get stretchy.

3. lightening crotch- I think that's what this is called. Recently I'll be walking around and get a stabbing pain right in my cervix. I'm pretty sure it's because the baby got a hold of a miniature baby knife and is slicing her way out. That's the only explanation for this stabbing grab-your-crotch-in-public pain.

4. Fatigue- I was tired in the first trimester and then I went back to my normal low-energy personality filled with naps, but holy crap in the last week I've developed full on narcolepsy. Taking a bath, I fell asleep- like dreaming and waking up panicked cause you don't know where you are, type of sleep. I got acupuncture and was left sitting in a chair and did the same thing. I'm talking leave me alone for 20 minutes and I pass out into a coma with no recollection of where I am or how I got here.

5. Oh the emotions- I can't keep my shit together for anything. Picking out an anniversary card for the husband? Ridiculous pregnant cry fest in the middle of the aisle, wherever the hell I was getting the card. Got an email from the dog walker who is on standby when I go into labor. His last email mentioned "the baby's birthday" and I bawled at that too.

6. Braxton hicks- I've been having these "practice contractions" since the beginning of the second trimester, but now they are a few times an hour and squeeze everything including my little heart (making me want to die) and my bowels (making me crap my pants).

7. Fluids- Did my water break? Did I pee? Yeah, it all becomes unknown at a certain point. That's pretty disgusting.

8. Hot flashes- I'm sorry for my husband and my coworkers who have to sit in a frosty environment while I'm burning up with heat. There's nothing worse. I can't get my clothes off fast enough. I look around and everyone else is wearing hats and scarfs in the office and I'm sitting in a wife beater with pit stains.


HAPPY NEW YEAR'S!!




let's get the show on the road!

Rolling in at 38weeks preggo, I am full-term and potentially could deliver at any moment and have a healthy ready-for-the-world baby. My midwife practice will give me until 42 weeks before they will medically induce via Pitocin, medicine that can make you go from no labor to full labor quickly, which makes for a bunch of pain and yuck and crap I'd like to avoid. So, to avoid my enemy pitocin, I'm starting a regimen of natural ways to induce labor. These may be all hocus pocus witches brew, but I don't care, at least I can say I tried. So here's my list of natural ways to induce:
large Marge full on sex appeal.

1. Raspberry leaf tea- this is supposed to be a uterine toner, and since my personal trainer in the gym doesn't work on toning my uterus, this magic tea does. It may also cause the major poops, but again totes worth it. Tastes like a very neutral tea, I just add some sugar and sip away feeling my uterus getting slim and toned as we speak.

2. walking, walking and more walking- Since it's winter in Chicago and the roads can be full of slop, this is a precarious activity for any wobble bobble preggo, but you gotta get at it. I start out walking all motivated and in shape, and then about half a block and I'm legs wide open into a pregnant wobble. This is because the movement of walking forces babies head down into your pelvis to face press onto your cervix, which feels like terrible. At times I'm not convinced one of her little arms has fallen out of my cervix hole.This combined with the fact that you're carrying 20+ pounds in a central area leads to a wobble plus a huff and puff, most likely with a wince on your face from the cervix poking. Have I sold you yet on the walk? Hold hands with your partner to make it ultra romantic.

3. Acupuncture- There's a place in Chicago that specializes in acupuncture for fertility and pregnancy related issues, and they also have a acupuncture package to induce labor. Bingo bango sign me up. Never had acupuncture before, so not really sure how it works. I'm assuming they stick the needles into your vag, which upsets everyone and boom, baby born! But I could be wrong... I'll have to let you know.

4. Foods- The husband is all "eat your spicy food!" and trying to kill me slowly I'm certain. I am not a spicy food eater and I'm pretty sure he's trying to dump some damn hot sauce on my cereal in the morning. This could go horribly wrong. Eating spicy foods while this preggo sounds like barfing and crying up hot sauce for like a day and no labor, or better yet barfing and pooping hot sauce DURING labor, yeah that sounds like a fiesta. We'll see, maybe I'll attempt this. Eggplant also apparently makes your uterus push a baby out, so large eggplants I shall have. Get ready hubs, you're about to eat 3 meals a day of eggplant Parmesan!

5.  Birth ball- Really this is just an exercise ball used in the gym that then preggos bounce on and call it a birth ball. I was told to use this at work and bounce on it, some people's water have broken doing that. A few things, I'm surprised I haven't flung myself off of it and onto the floor. Two, you look like you're doing some preggo sex toy in your office... just remember to smile and wave as people slowly walk by your office. You don't have your own office? Well then using this bouncy ball in public will most likely get your arrested.

6. Sex- vomit comit. move on.

7. Castor oil- ummmm. yeah I don't think so. This isn't recommend anymore because mom's pooped their life away and also the baby slid out, but mainly preggos shit their brains out. I'll stick to my poop tea.

8. oh yes how could I forget, nipple stimulation- I tried this in the tub one day and was like "WTF, this doesn't work" after I gave myself a titty twister for a minute. Then I read more about this nipple stimulation and you have to do it for like 20 minutes! Holy crap, I can barely do anything for 20 minutes and now I have to tug on my nipples? We'll see... I'll try the others on the list first, then get to a day of titty twisters.
demonstrating correct positioning for use of Snoogle





Questions to ask your provider about your pregnancy and labor

Here are some important questions to research and ask your provider when you're preggo rama. Feel free to add more in the comments section!

1. Ultrasounds- Once you've taken a preg test at home and called your provider, they usually bring you in around 10 weeks or so and then do an ultrasound to confirm around the same time. Ask your provider how many ultrasounds they usually perform. Typically, there's an ultrasound to confirm viable pregnancy around 10ish weeks and then another ultrasound at around 20 weeks to look at all the organs and gender (if you opt to find out). Thereafter, practices usually don't do any other ultrasounds unless you go past 40 weeks, then they need to check on amniotic fluid, also if there are any concerns/complications during pregnancy they will do another ultrasound. However, some providers will perform ultrasounds at every visit (that's almost every 2 weeks!) without medical reason or because of patient request. The issues with this is that, #1. it's costly, for either you or insurance companies, either way, they are a few hundred dollars a pop. #2. It's not completely known how "safe" ultrasound waves are for baby or if there's a "max" tolerance for the fetus, so why risk having numerous ultrasounds if the practitioner isn't looking for anything specific and if mom/baby are healthy? Question a provider who is ordering ultrasounds every visit to see if there's a reason.

2. Induction- When do they start talking about induction? Typically these days, practices let women go to 42 weeks (2 weeks past due date) until they induce. There are hospitals who are looking at inducing all women at 39 weeks to see if it reduces cesarean rates, be cautious about these practices, many women will go into labor on their own or will be induced at 42 weeks with a vaginal delivery. Induction typically is uncomfortable and can be hard on baby so shouldn't be looked at lightly. There are also natural ways to attempt to induce labor. Ask your provider if they are aware of these and have any recommendations on when to start a natural induction in hopes of avoiding a medical induction. However, sometimes you can do everything and still end up with induction or cesarean.

3. C-sections-  It is important to ask your provider, especially OBGYN what their cesarean rate is, that may give you an idea of what type of practice they have. For midwives, ask what the c-section rate is for the hospital, which will include their partnering OBGYNs. Be cautious about providers who tell you they don't do many c-sections, but their numbers tell a different story. If you've had a c-section before and are hoping for a vaginal delivery, years ago your hope for a vaginal delivery would be out the window, yet today vaginal births after cesarean (VBAC) are possible for many woman. If this is your wish, find a provider who does VBACs.

4. On call schedule- What is the call schedule for your provider? How large is the team they work with? Do they take other call, such as general gynecology surgery? There are some OBGYNs who will be on call for both labor and delivery and any gynecological surgery, which means that you could be in labor and the provider is in surgery doing a hysterectomy for example. What does this mean for you? You could be in a fast labor and progressing quickly, which means the staff will be doing everything they can to pull the OBGYN out of surgery. This puts a lot of stress on the nursing staff when things start moving quickly and the provider is unavailable.This also means you will get less face to face time with your provider.

5. Rooms- Make sure you take a tour of the labor and delivery area. Take note of how many beds there are and ask the ratio of patients to provider or patients to nurse, this will give you an idea of how much one on one time you can expect with your team. This is also why doula's are beneficial because they will be with you from the start. In the rooms are their tubs to utilize during labor, and can  you deliver in them, or only labor in them? Typically, if a bathtub is connected on the sides (like at your house), you won't be allowed to deliver the baby, but can stay in there and labor until you get the urge to push. Some hospitals have free standing tubs in each room if the mom opts for a water birth. Are there showers? Can you stay in the shower and labor? Do the rooms have birth balls or birth bars to utilize during labor?

6. Types of intervention- Is it hospital policy that you receive an IV? Do you have to be hooked up with a bag of fluids or can it be heplocked? Can  you opt out of an IV if you're medically stable and hydrated? All practices and hospitals are different, but if you want minimally invasive care during labor, see if you are able to opt out of an IV. It used to be standard practice to deny laboring mom's anything by mouth as far as food or drink, they would only give you ice chips. This practice has been looked at more closely and they realized that labor is hard work, like a marathon, and women need nutrition to keep their energy up! Ask your practice if they allow any type of food or drink during labor. Fetal monitoring- this is like a stretchy "belt" that goes around your stomach to listen and record the babies heart beat to make sure they are not in distress. Most practices require a minimum of 20 minutes monitoring in the beginning and then do intermittent monitoring with a doppler. Ask your practice if they would allow intermittent monitoring if baby has shown no distress. Does your practice use foreceps or vacuum extraction? This used to be a popular method of delivery years ago but has decreased for many reasons- these should be used only as a last resort effort to get the baby out vaginally. Does your practice routinely perform episiotomies (Surgical incision from the vagina down toward anus) or do they let you tear? Recent research has shown that women heal faster and better if they are allowed to tear naturally versus the practitioner making a cut. There are critical instances where an emergency cut becomes necessary to get baby out, but make sure it's not standard to do episiotomies.

7. The birth- When you're in the stage of pushing, is it typical for your practice to "count" or can you opt to push when your body tells you? Can you utilize any position that's comfortable for you to labor in (assuming you don't have an epidural, an epidural will limit your ability to get out of bed or walk, but you could utilize the chair position in bed.) Is your partner interested in "catching" the baby? Some practices absolutely do not let non-medical providers help catch the baby, while others do, if this is important to you or your partner, find out before you're in the delivery room. Does your practice do delayed cord clamping? This is becoming more standard of a lot of practices to wait to cut the umbilical cord when it stops pulsating, unless the baby is in distress or there's meconium in the fluid and they need to assess the baby immediately after delivery. It's also becoming standard practice to do skin to skin right after delivery (again if baby is not in distress). Is this standard practice for your provider? Can you delay the nursing assessment (ie: weight, footprints, and towel drying) until you've had time to bond and go skin to skin with baby?

8. After delivery, care of the baby- One important aspect that was brought to my attention is, once you deliver, you and your baby are two separate people, so there needs to be a pediatrician that discharges your baby from the hospital, which means they need to be affiliated with the hospital you're delivering at (get recommendations from your practice). Some pediatricians require a 48 hr stay for baby regardless. If you have the intentions of leaving the hospital sooner rather than later, opt for a provider who does not have the strict guidelines, that means you could leave 24-30 hours after delivery! Also, in regards to pediatricians, if you are considering delayed vaccines or are on the fence about any vaccines, make sure you pick a pediatrician who will respect those views. There are three things your baby will be offered in the hospital prior to discharge: 1. Hep B vaccine 2. Vitamin K injection 3. Erythromycin eye ointment. Do the research and if you decide you want to opt out of any, make sure you have a provider that will support this decision or who will at least talk to you about the advantages/disadvantages.

9. Birth plans-  Many people will tell you that birth plans never go as planned, however I believe that when a woman, especially a new mom puts together a birth plan it at least requires her to do research on what options there are. Know that when you develop a birth plan, it most likely won't go as perfectly as you hoped. Also make a plan for the emergency situations, such as in the event of an emergency c-section, is there anything you'd like? Partner to be handed the baby after delivery? Arms not tied down? Curtain lowered? Doula present in the surgical suite? There are still options for c-sections that allow women to be as much a part of birth as possible. You could also create a plan if the baby has to go to the NICU- who will be going with baby? If you have a provider that tells you to absolutely not create a birth plan, that may be a sign that he/she is not willing to look at alternative options you may wish for during your labor/delivery.

10. Natural birth- If you're hoping for a natural unmedicated birth, or to have aspects of your labor/delivery that utilize more natural methods, choose a provider who is educated and willing to work with you on this. Typically, midwives tend to be more versed in natural methods of labor and delivery, however there are many OBGYNs who are also versed and supportive, just make sure if this is your interest, you find a provider that is willing to work with you and also has the resources to help with an unmedicated  natural delivery.

The main thing is always ask questions! Just because the provider says or orders one thing does not mean you do not have other options.

Midwives, doulas, and doctors, oh my!

A lot of the medical knowledge I've acquired through my nursing training I have taken for granted and assumed everyone had the same pot of knowledge. It wasn't until I got pregnant and the questions came flowing in that I realized there is a lack of knowledge and resources for young women, pregnant women and new moms. Knowing that people don't have the full spectrum of information related to women's health and obstetrics is really frustrating. I've found many women didn't even realize they had options when it came to their pregnancy or labor. 

This is a long post, but very educational, so stay with me!

Let's start with doulas. Many people don't know what doulas are, or how they differ from midwives, and many people think both do some sort of witch craft in your back yard back in 1802 anyways. The word doula literally means "woman's servant", a type of birth support that started way back. A doula is not medically trained, so that's the biggest difference between doula and midwife. Many doulas have become licensed massage therapists so they can perform various acupressure during labor. Doulas are almost essential in natural childbirth when there are no pain medications used because in their training they know how to provide acupressure, massage therapy, and utilize breathing techniques to get women through natural childbirth. The use of doulas has been shown to reduce labor complications, decrease labor time and reduce cesarean rates. Post-partum they also help with breast feeding and usually make at least one post-partum visit to the mom to assess for post-partum depression or any breast feeding issues. For more information http://www.dona.org/. Although many doulas are utilized during natural childbirth, a woman who is getting an epidural or other types of pain relief can also benefit from a doula during labor. In the case of emergency cesarean's, doulas still provide essential support to both mom and dad.

As far as midwives, I could talk about them all day long. They are amazing, underutilized professionals that sprinkle my pregnant life with fairy dust. Since the beginning of time, women helped women deliver babies. There was little training for both midwives and physicians during this time, and all countries/states utilized them differently. Some countries required some form of licensing (I'm talking back in the 1500s). Around the 1900s, medicine had grown popular and more regulated requiring specific education and licensing from physicians. Midwifery was popular in Europe but was less known and used in the US until around 1929 when Mary Breckinridge brought midwifery to America. Breckinridge was the founder and driver of the Frontier Nursing Service in Kentucky, which was a huge start to the midwifery movement. Ina May Gaskin is also a well known midwife, however definitely a flower-child hippie from the 70s, has written books and made documentaries about birth in America.

Midwives today are masters and sometimes doctorate-prepared nurses, same as nurse practitioners, just with a focus on mom/baby. Many midwives gain years of experience in labor and delivery as registered nurses and go on through rigorous education and clinical hours to become a certified nurse midwife. Midwives are licensed professionals, meaning they can prescribe and diagnose, same as a physician. They can perform well women visits (pap smears, ect.), prescribe birth control, family planning counseling, STD counseling and prevention, and also deliver babies! One difference between physicians and midwives is that midwives do not take high risk pregnancies, including pregnant women with uncontrolled hypertension, diabetes, morbid obesity or other chronic conditions. They see the average, healthy uncomplicated pregnancy. They also usually work in a team with other midwives and partner with physicians. In the case of an emergency, they have physician backup and partnership, some midwives are licensed as first assists in surgery, so if you go for an emergency cesarean and have been seen for 9+ months by your midwife, he/she is still in the operating room during the cesarean assisting the OBGYN physician.

A large misconception still in effect today is that midwives only deliver at your home in your backyard with wolves, or in a cave while they sacrifice a lamb or some crap. Although there are midwives (and physicians!) that do home births, when they do, they bring all the supplies the hospital would have for a normal delivery (IV fluids, IVs, medications, fetal monitoring equipment, ect.). However, a vast majority of midwives practice and deliver in large medical centers or birthing centers affiliated with hospitals and physicians.

Why a midwife you ask? Certified nurse midwifes (CNM) come with a vast variety of benefits that many women are unaware of. Midwives have shown to decrease rates of cesarean (C-sections), lower maternity care costs, reduced morbidity/mortality of mother and baby, lower intervention rates and lower complication rates.

In the US we are heading in an unfortunate direction with labor and delivery. The term "too Posh to push" sets my skin on fire. The average rate of c-sections in the US has risen to about 33% from about 20% in 1996. What people fail to understand or recognize is that c-sections are surgical procedures and should only be used for medical emergencies, not because a woman wants to schedule her delivery for convenience. We are utilizing trained surgeons to deliver babies, and we wonder why our cesarean rate is increasing. Should healthy normal pregnancies be delivered by OBGYN, trained surgeons? Or is this utilization a poor use of resources and proving poorer outcomes? OBGYN's are phenomenal for emergencies and interventions when labor has taken a turn from natural uncomplicated vaginal delivery.

There is a hospital in Chicago that I can guarantee almost any pregnant woman I meet is delivering there. When I ask why, the response is usually because the labor and delivery suite is so pretty, with views of the lake! However, what many women fail to ask their provider is what is their cesarean rate- this particular hospital has one of the highest cesarean rates in the state if IL. I don't want to make it seem like everyone should run to a midwife and that OBGYNs are not fit for normal delivery, however, as women we should be asking providers more questions and have a better role in our pregnancy and delivery, because up until there's an emergency, we have options! In a following post, I will put together a list of questions to ask your provider, or list of questions you should think about when researching a provider or hospital.

As a society we are heading in the wrong direction of where our birth statistics are. More cesarean rates, more complications and interventions and unfortunately higher mortality rates than many other developed countries. Scheduled inductions and scheduled cesareans for no medical reasons should be looked at carefully and in my opinion, should be illegal for physicians to perform. Talk to your provider and be part of your care; pregnancy and birth are a time of celebration. Our bodies were made to do this!

I put the prep in your granola.


http://www.midwife.org/index.asp
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/06/c-section-rate-variation-hospitals_n_2819024.html
http://www.childbirthconnection.org/article.asp?ck=10456
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/01/health/american-way-of-birth-costliest-in-the-world.html?_r=0





 
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